Why Intimate Partners Leave

Dr. Kelly James, a licensed professional trauma therapist in Tulsa and a member of The Villa Voice editorial team, works with women who've experienced abandonment from her practice, Foundational Solutions. James says there are signs that often go unnoticed of a partner who may be preparing to leave the relationship.

"Abandonment does not happen out of the blue," James says. "One person in the relationship is unhappy for whatever reason and starts to internally process his or her feelings. This person, however, does not communicate their unhappiness until, all of a sudden, they announce they want out of the marriage or simply leave."

• According to James, some of those signs include:
• Failing to make time for the spouse or partner
• Failing to make an effort to work on the relationship
• Taking the spouse or partner for granted
• Failing to resolve issues or conflicts
• Harsh treatment in words and/or actions
• Unforgiveness
• Denial of the state of the relationship

If you or a friend have experienced abandonment and need professional counseling to begin the healing process, call Foundational Solutions at 918.928.9585.